Tommy turned three at the beginning of August, and we met at the park with the birth family for a birthday party. I've never been good at planning parties. For some reason, it always alludes me. Thirteen year old Mary Susannah and I have decided that she might need to take over this part of our life, because she has lots of ideas. All I need to do is open my wallet, although that tends to be empty a lot...
But all that aside, once again, my party was messed up when we met at all the water park for the third time, for Tommy's third birthday. The first birthday, the water was turned off. The second birthday, it stormed. And this third birthday, the water was turned off AGAIN!! Next year, I will plan something else - or rather, next year, MARY SUSANNAH will plan something else...
So, we trooped over to the playground, since the water park was dry. But it was hot, hot, HOT! We stayed a bit, then went back to my house for a while. But while we were there, I did manage to get a few pictures. The family gave me permission to post them, and I thought it would be nice for other families who are considering adoption, and especially are having some emotional thoughts about open adoption, to see that it is possible to have it not only work out, but be a wonderful thing for everyone:
First picture, of course, is the star of the show, Tommy! He is about as cute as you can get!
This is Angel-Leah's "Nanny" and they love each other like crazy. I really got to know and like her before Angel-Leah's adoption, and it wasn't hard for me to see her continue to be part of both our lives.
This is Angel-Leah and Tommy's Grandma Bonnie. She's been a wealth of information for me in dealing with some of the things I need to learn about Tommy. I like her more the more I get to know her.
So, once again, the purpose of this blog post is to encourage families not to be afraid of keeing a birth family in your child's life. I am thankful to some online ladies who encouraged me in this, ladies I got to know through two special adoption and foster/adoption websites. Some are adoptive parents, some are birth parents, and some are adoptees themselves. They have been invaluable to me, helping me learn, and they helped me bless my children and myself by giving me the courage to do this. Thanks ladies!!
And thanks, everyone who loves my children, all ten of them, whether they are in our lives by birth, by adoption, or by friendship. Nothing in life is more important than our relationships, with God first, and with people, next!